Some theories suggest this is our subconscious mind trying to resolve old wounds. Even minor traumas, like the feeling “my parents never heard me,” can lead you to be attracted to, or hypersensitive to, someone who struggles to be present with you. They are, in essence, lighting up old wounds within you.

Does trauma attract more trauma?

For individuals with unresolved traumas, the mate-selection process often carries a double risk. That is, unhealed wounds of past trauma in your life lead to a higher likelihood that unsafe people will pick you, and if you actively pick a partner, it is much more likely that you will end up with an unsafe person.

What it means to love a girl with trauma?

So when you love a girl whos gone through trauma, youre saying that you see the worth in helping her bandage the wounds. Youre saying that you see the worth someone else tried to bury. Loving girl who has managed to make it to the other side of a traumatic experience is like deciding to restore an abandoned house.