Generally, it is not illegal for these two to date. Of course, any sexual activity is considered statutory rape, but if there is no sexual aspect to their relationship, then they are probably fine. However, this is a fine line to walk for the 21 year old.

Is a 20 year old dating a 16 year old wrong?

Its generally legal for a 16 year old and a 20 year old to have sex in OK. No teachers, no relatives, no foster kids.

Is a 17 year old dating a 21 year old wrong?

Yes, so long as the relationship is not sexual. If they have sexual intercourse, the 21-year-old can face criminal charges for statutory rape if they are not married. The prohibition on sexual activity makes California different from many other states. California does not have a “Romeo and Juliet” law.

Is it okay to date at 16?

Theres no right answer. Its important to consider your child as an individual. For many kids, 16 seems to be an appropriate age, but it may be entirely suitable for a mature 15-year-old to go on a date, or to make your immature 16-year-old wait a year or two. You can also consider what other parents are doing.