In the end, its totally up to you to decide what the best move is. If you think it would be less upsetting for them to hear it from you, or if youre sure that youve both moved on and just want to let them know whats going on in your life as you would with any other close friend, then go for it.

When should I tell my ex Im seeing someone?

As long as you are not being cruel, telling your ex as soon as you think that he, or a mutual friend, might see you and your new partner together is a good idea. Sending an email is fine, although try to use a hotmail address rather than a work address if possible so they can read it in their own time.

Does seeing your ex with someone else help you move on?

According to Dr. Caroline Madden, PhD, licensed marriage and family therapist, seeing your ex happy with someone else can be a reminder of that. Its easy to forget why you broke up and place all the blame on yourself. Keep in mind that everyone looks happy in the first part of a relationship,” Madden says.