“Each couple is different depending on age and circumstances, but a reasonable amount of time to be engaged is one to three years,” she says. Each couple is different depending on age and circumstances, but a reasonable amount of time to be engaged is one to three years.

How long should you be with someone until you get married?

Give Yourself Time to Know Your Partner Through the Good Times and the Bad. As a baseline, Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, licensed psychotherapist, couples therapist and author of She Comes First, suggests that one to two years is often a good amount of time to date before getting engaged.