If youve just started dating and hes blowing hot and cold with you, he might just be trying to pace things. He might be worried that if you rush things or see each other too much in the early days, things will burn out quickly and itll be over before it can really start.

Why do I run hot and cold in relationships?

There are many reasons a person blows hot and cold. It could be that they are not ready for a committed relationship; they dont know what they want; they are not sure what to do about their intense feelings for you; or they are emotionally unstable or unavailable.

Why do men go cold in a relationship?

1: He could be hot when he wants sex from you, and cold when he doesnt want to invest more in the relationship with you. And he feels you wanting more investment. 2: He could be pulling away. See this article on why men pull away & how to deal with it as a high value woman.