What do you say when you first message someone?

3. Say Something Sweet. If youre texting someone for the first time, Smith suggests mentioning something that made you laugh or made you think of them. A genuinely sweet thought is never bad, and even if the relationship doesnt progress, your text has the potential to brighten their day.

Should I respond quickly or wait?

Post Sennings general rule is to not wait longer than one to three hours to reply, he tells TI. A text conversation can go stale in a few hours, he says. Dont just make them wait. If youre crushing on someone, dont play mind games, he says.