Wait until your divorce or separation is final before you start dating. Even if you know your marriage is really, truly over, you still need to give yourself some time and space. Although theres no magic time frame by which one is ready to date, I typically recommend that one wait about a year, Jones says.

How can I ease the pain of separation?

Coping With Separation And DivorceRecognize that its OK to have different feelings. Give yourself a break. Dont go through this alone. Take care of yourself emotionally and physically. Avoid power struggles and arguments with your spouse or former spouse. Take time to explore your interests. Think positively.More items

Why separation hurts so much?

If the decision to end the relationship wasnt yours, there might be feelings of rejection, insecurities, low self-esteem, low self-confidence and vulnerability. Going through a breakup is experiencing real loss, and the bigger the love, the connection and the intimacy, the bigger the pain and suffering.